Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

Dragonflower says,

Sometimes I wonder about this. People who have huge lists of things they have done or awards they have received. Do those accomplishments take over? Does the person feel like they themselves get lost? And sometimes I wonder how a person who is highly accomplished feels going places, doing things where others aren't aware of their accomplishments and so they are treated like just a regular joe.

Just my own random thoughts inspired by this memoir.

notjustagirlintheworld says,

perhaps life is just hard (or easy) depending on the perspective you choose, not so much about what you did (didn't do)but about how you feel...

Dragonflower says,

Good thought, notjusta! I find my perspective changes frequently, but events pretty much stay the same.

ba_miracle says,

Life is absolutely changed by perspectives. Sometimes you have to work really hard to see a thing for the lesson or experience that it was. Then work even harder embracing the takeaway that will serve you best for happiness/future success.
Sometimes things just have to set/sit awhile to sink in.


I was just looking at my "hometown's" local news and saw the Pinnacles is now a national park. Something that members of my old Rotary club were driving forces behind. They talked me into a couple PSA's and almost got me to serve on the board but I was a busy little bee at the time, my daughter, real estate,the club, food banks and foster children were my passions. Also little did I know then that in a few months, my own life would begin a hard crash and continue on. I've only recently decided to clean up the pieces and rebuild. Decided I know sounds silly but it really did come to to deciding and self talking into... I'm willing to risk losing all of that again by having it. I'm willing to do the work required to get it and almost feel healthy enough to carry it through.

When I first learned that my husband molested my daughter, my first thought was "no" the other flood of thoughts were..."you knew better than to trust anyone" and the other stand by..."who did I think I was"? tempting fate with all my happiness.
Turning him in was something I did on auto-pilot and the next year or so I mustered through while real estate and my finances crashed as well. It was hard and ugly and has taken me years to (almost) recover.

I had never imagined being a happily married, mother who was involved in school activities, business woman respected by my colleagues, solid volunteer, member of boards, upstanding citizen? So now I know from experience that being a homeless,trouble making foster kid and homeless junkie gives no reason not to do the other things as well.

Now after re-realizing that you can't trust anyone I've also learned that you have to anyway. Having lost the things I used to fear losing and the slapping sting of failure is losing effect...I am remembering how worthwhile life was when it was built around helping, loving others.

Having succeeded is a pain in the ass because you know better and Maya Angelou says "When you know better you do better".

notjustagirlintheworld says,

love that quote and your story and well gosh, you :D

Dragonflower says,

Trusting is something I need to work on if I want any kind of a life. Thank you for telling of your courage to trust again. And the foundation step to recovery of any sort is the one that starts with "Made a decision..." From then on, it's just healing all the way. Thanks for the reminder of this, ba_miracle. I hope that when you think the old thought of "who do I think I am?" you have a really snappy answer now. Because I think you are wonderful.