If I learned one thing from the guy I just broke up with, it was that silence has its own rewards. Non response sometimes works better. There are people who aren't interested in resolving something, they just want to be bully-ish.
And to acquiesce is not a bad thing. I had a friend who always (always!) had to have things her way. She didn't fight exactly, just...IDK. If I said let's leave at 7, she'd say 5. Stuff like that. If I wanted to discuss it, that's when the fight would start. or at least get tense. It really didn't matter to me, so I finally learned to keep quiet and just say ok. Makes me sound like a doormat, but it isn't. I only do that for the stuff that really doesn't matter. Keeps the peace.
these six words leapt out from the sermon I heard in church this morning. Thanks Pastor Jodi. (I attend a Baptist church which has two lady ministers on the pastoral team.)We can live with peace and joy no matter...
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ShellDeFelice says,
This will be a life long lesson for me.ba_miracle says,
I used to be a fighter...now I'm learning to appreciate my ability to acquiesce.We will see how well and often the skill gets applied :-)
ShellDeFelice says,
Ability to acquiesce...that is quite lovely. I think you have another great six there!Dragonflower says,
If I learned one thing from the guy I just broke up with, it was that silence has its own rewards. Non response sometimes works better. There are people who aren't interested in resolving something, they just want to be bully-ish.And to acquiesce is not a bad thing. I had a friend who always (always!) had to have things her way. She didn't fight exactly, just...IDK. If I said let's leave at 7, she'd say 5. Stuff like that. If I wanted to discuss it, that's when the fight would start. or at least get tense. It really didn't matter to me, so I finally learned to keep quiet and just say ok. Makes me sound like a doormat, but it isn't. I only do that for the stuff that really doesn't matter. Keeps the peace.
notjustagirlintheworld says,
trying to learn when to fight (and when to walk away)