Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

ShellDeFelice says,

Sad!

three-monkeys says,

Yes...I am trying to access the anger rather than sadness, but I am starting to feel like the anger doesn't really help my sister, and I am sure that the sadness won't either. Sometimes I just do really need to feel it for myself, though I try not to let her know how much I am reeling. Her home was my respite too; since I was 18, I ran there whenever something bad happened in my life. I was putting my son to bed tonight and staring at a picture of him and my neice (her daughter) running down the country lane outside my sister's house. I had tears welling in my eyes during nighttime prayers. It doesn't matter. For me, it's just a place. To her, it's a world.

notjustagirlintheworld says,

honoring your own feeling does make you any less supportive of your sister, everyone gets to grieve

three-monkeys says,

Thank you, notjustagirl-friend. :)

ShellDeFelice says,

I love what notjustagirl said. Years ago I lost a brother. He had a wife and two little boys. I had a difficult time with my sadness and anger because it paled in comparrison to the loss that my sister in law was feeling, who was a friend. Someone told me my grief was no less real, just different. Broken families hurt everyone.

three-monkeys says,

I am so sorry about your brother, Shell. You should never have felt that you were less justified in your grieving...you shared a childhood and a lifetime with your brother. Again, I'm so sorry. :( That sort of puts it into perspective for me...everyone has their health, we're all alive, and my sister is going to come out on the other side of this. Life will change, and that's all.

Dragonflower says,

Someone close to me just went through a break-up. What amazed me was how many people were affected. It just wasn't the "couple". It was friends of the couple who had to choose sides, it was the grown children and their own families, it was ex-spouses who remained on good terms with the break up couple, it was even the pets.

Everyone has to grieve at some level for the loss of what was (simple things like annual Superbowl parties to more complicated things). It all changes now, as you day three-monkeys. Hopefully for the better and hopefully without too many scars. But break ups are never, ever easy. Loss is never grieved in just the three days work allots you. Its way more complicated than that.

You are a terrific sister, three-monkeys, and very compassionate towards others. Sounds like you are starting to accept what's happened so you move on to help your sister imagine a new life. Hoping for the best for you.

tcrog1020 says,

My sister and her husband of 30 years divorced, I love my sister, but it is she that seems to be the one that tore the blanket. She wanted other men. Or so it seems. All the family were effected. It is never easy.