Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

jl333 says,

Sadly, I think a lot of people can relate to this memoir

ba_miracle says,

I hope that you choose you.

MO_Thoughts2 says,

Ditto ba_miracle. You are the most important one in this triangle.

hawkeye says,

Thanks. Starting to realize this.

TheUnknownComic says,

I was confused for a second as to why you had to choose between yourself or your mistress. I didn't have my coffee this morning.

Dragonflower says,

I wish you all the best, hawkeye. Time is sometimes helpful in these matters. Broken trust is not easy to handle and I can relate to your pain and anguish. Please try to remember that you are special and deserving of love. And trust your instincts to make wise decisions. Stay strong.

NumbrOneAunt says,

is he saying that he might want to come back? is he hoping that you'll take him back but still let him see his mistress? i'm so very sorry your heart got stomped on like this!

ShellDeFelice says,

If there was a girls only page I would say "Boys are stupid" but there isn't so I won't. (Some boys who post here seem like deep thoughtful souls but as I have never met an evolved man in person I cannot atest to their reality).
Sisterhood solidarity...it's what got me through a similar dark dingy path. Your sister seems like a treasure...count those as much as you can...Boys are stupid...I'll have to deny that later but in solidarity that is my truth and my heart is sorry that the boy in your life was so completely stupid that he couldn't even find dignity if it slapped him upside the head.

oopsalittle says,

It's a matter of trust - once broken can it be fully mended?

Dragonflower says,

Oopsalittle, In my experience, no. It got semi-mended enough for me to stay (or get back together) with the cheater person, but I never felt the same....IDK, the same confidence, maybe? The same trust. I have a huge heart and I forgive sometimes too easily. That's why I believe time sometimes helps to really make things clear. Also, I changed after being cheated on, and the cheater person did not. I often think that cheater people don't think it is a big deal, which is why they can do it in the first place. I didn't have children with my cheater person, so I'm not sure how I would feel in that situation.

What I do know for sure is that it feels awful and my heart goes out to you, hawkeye. Please, please, never think for one minute that there is anything wrong with you.

PS. I changed my screen name today from Autumn22. I have commented on your sister's memoirs before. I think she is great!

jl333 says,

@oppsaliitle...No way, No how! He should of thought about the consequences before going outside of his marriage! He may have just lost the most single important thing...his wife. But he knew fully what he was doing, he had absolutely zero self control and was extremely selfish in his actions! And shame on that mistress! She too knew...once a cheater, always a cheater.

hawkeye says,

Shame on that mistress indeed!! She is married also with kids the same ages as ours. Both under age 6.

oopsalittle says,

agree - trust is earned and once broken-
My ex left me for another - then married his 'soulmate'. They broke up nine months later. My children were hopeful that perhaps mum and dad could get together again. No way!
A close female friend had an affair with a married man (that was so hard for me to watch!)she kept hoping and waiting for him to leave his wife. I asked her if she could ever trust him - given she knew he is capable of having affairs 'on the side'. She couldn't answer me when I tried to get her to look in the mirror - we don't see each other much these days...

three-monkeys says,

Loving the memoirs, comments, and the solidarity. People like you all are the reasons I love smithmag. Keep writing, hawkeye!