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Why is it when I am assertive in conversation, I find out later that it is perceived that I had been acting in a manner unbecoming of a woman? However, I see little difference in my communication style from my male counterparts. by notyouraveragegirl in Six-Word Memoirs on Jan 30, 2013 | 
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canadafreeze says,
The perception of the world - a trait desirable on one gender doesn't always get perceived in a favourable light when displayed by the opposite gender. Nothing you don't already know, I'm sure ...Dragonflower says,
Sometimes it is that way with other women too. Some women are just naturally outspoken and vocal and it is accepted. But whenever I spoke up at work, these vocal women would try to squash me and ask what got into me. That made me more upset then when the men did that. My counselor just gave me a list of rights that form the basis for self- assertion. One of them is: the right to express annoyance, displeasure, and anger.She is teaching me that self- assertion does not make others do what we want, only that we have made known who we are and what we need.
Dragonflower says,
ps. I like your new avitar.notjustagirlintheworld says,
Short answer: you are female.Dragonflower says,
Yes, or little bit longer answer: you are female and not in charge.notyouraveragegirl says,
Thank you for the experiential comments. Alas, I am still learning. I am in a stage in my life where I have been changing from an agreeable pacifist to more of a cynical assertive. My field is comprised predominately of men. You are correct Autumn22, the one other assertive female I encounter is a entirely different memoir! I ignore her because I categorize her with the catty and insecure.notyouraveragegirl says,
Also, Autumn22 you may have me confused with NotJustAGirl or NotYourAverageGranda. My avitar has been the same.