"No." Getting easier to say now.
BackstoryI just realized I am getting better at this statement. I say "no" easily and without feeling a need to justify.
The other night I was out eating by myself. A couple was sitting at the table next to me, talking quietly. Then a friend of theirs came up to say hello. He asked me if he could take my other chair and, thinking I'd just say sure, he started to move it.
Sitting at a table without the other chair feels very wierd to me. I've allowed it before and regretted it. It is like the epitome of aloneness. Waste of space aloneness. It is the equivalent of having my feet dangle in an aerial ride-- unnerving.
So I said "No" in my big girl voice. He was so surprised he looked at me. I looked back. Said "No" again and shook my head.
Then went back to eating. What a great word! It is going to come in handy, I can tell.