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My father was a historian. He began his professional career writing about the abolition of slavery. He came to the US from Holland at the age of 6 (just ahead of Hitler's invasion of his homeland) and learned to speak English by charming the young ladies who took tickets at the local movie theater with a few words of his native Dutch. Before he came to the US he had literally never seen a black person. He was fascinated by black people and their plight. Arriving in the late 1930's Jim Crow was alive and well. He never lost that fascination or his frustration at the injustice. In the 1960s he left my mother with two small children in Williams town MA, where he was teaching, to march on Washington. It among his proudest accomplishments. A few years later, he followed his mentor to Lake Forest College in Illinois. His academic focus moved away from abolitionism to the the history of education. He remained focused on the inequity between the wealthy and poor (largely black) communities. He required his students to student-teach in under-funded communities both because those communities needed the most help and because he wanted his students (from a primarily white, private college) to see how their education and home life had differed from the children growing up in poor black communities long after Brown vs. The Board of Education. Eventually, he started a summer program on the Lake Forest campus for bright under privileged students. They lived in the dorms Monday-Friday (to get a taste of college life) and returned to their families on the weekend. They were ALL scholarship students. He felt if he could instill in them a love of learning and expose them to the life they could have at an early age, the course of their lives might well be affected. It was the capstone to his career and his true passion. He truly felt a kinship with black people, referring to them as 'my people.' To his dying day, he deplored inequity in all ways, but was most offended by, to quote MLK, those who "judged people not by quality of their character but by the color of their skin." When Obama was elected I cried for what we had accomplished, and for how amazed and proud he would have been.

by notjustagirlintheworld in Six-Word Memoirs on Jan 21, 2013 | add favorite | T-shirt

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Bevvie says,

I love this wonderful story. I confess that I am a little teary after reading it.

Loon says,

superlative

notjustagirlintheworld says,

*proud he would have been to part of "this" America. I thought it slid under the 400 word mark!

Missing my dad a lot today.

L2L3 says,

He'd be even more proud of you.

JAD says,

Being an African American I salute the work of your dad and what he stood for. Had I not been a member of the SMITH community this story would have escaped me. Thanks so much for sharing.

notjustagirlintheworld says,

Thanks L, I'd like to think so. Thanks JAD he'd be so happy we found each other.

Staraj says,

I now add your father to my "hammering" list. Gladly and with humility.

jl333 says,

Your backstory is amazing. Your father was truly an amazing man.

notjustagirlintheworld says,

Hammering list? Did I miss something?

tonyglim says,

What a wonderful backstory! I enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing.
(Staraj might be referring to the folk song "If I Had a Hammer.")

notjustagirlintheworld says,

ah needless to say both of my parents were old folkies before the were old folks :D

ba_miracle says,

Inspirational backstory and I LOVE your dad.

Growing up I was a part of many ethic groups (California) shelters, grouphomes, detention centers and the like. We children had a unity beyond our parents and care givers and if racial differences were pointed out, we dismissed it in the way that insolent children did. (even insolence has it's proper place).

I felt as though we had come so much further until I moved to the south east S.C. now I feel as though I'll never experience that type of unity in my lifetime on a broad world view or even local fashion.

But I can do my small part to strive.

I'm your dads new fan! Sending him a hug in spirit :-)

Staraj says,

"If I Had a Hammer" is a great song. And Pete Seeger is most certainly on my hammering list. (I have a good backstory about him, so I should come up with a six for it.) However, the hammering list to which I refer can be found at this six:

"In an emerging urgency, break convention."

three-monkeys says,

LOVE this story, and it left me teary-eyed too. It's wonderful to be reminded of the pure goodness that still exists in humanity; certainly your father was a shining example.

canadafreeze says,

I am speechless and teary-eyed by your dad's passion. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful part of your life.

MO_Thoughts2 says,

What an amazing man. Thank you for sharing the story.

catsmeow says,

He and others like him paved the way for this inauguration day.

KharisJo says,

Remarkable man and your wonderful backstory has really done him justice njag. Congratulations and thank you to you both.

oopsalittle says,

This makes me miss my dad - a great story
Kudos

NumbrOneAunt says,

notjust, i've known from various memoirs of yours that you were very close to your dad, and this backstory illustrates why. so very moving. i have a deep admiration for great teachers, because a great teacher changed my life. i know you miss your dad so much, but i hope it's some comfort to you that he made an impact that will have ripple effects beyond imagining as the students whose lives he changed change others' lives in their turn, and the benefits to humanity continue through the years...

lillybrook says,

This is an amazing story, and what a legacy your father left behind. We need more advocate/educators like him in the world.

notjustagirlintheworld says,

I miss him, it's true. Thanks NumberOne and all of you. He really was the very best.

wackjob says,

i love your Pa

TheAngstyPoet says,

Love this memoir, it almost made me cry.

BanjoDan says,

many thanks NJ for the story and the tribute to your father!

L2L3 says,

This is one of the best backstories that I've ever read here at Smith. Congrats on having the featured backstory.

notjustagirlintheworld says,

Thanks L2 that means a lot coming from you.

harley587 says,

Your father must have been a most amazing man and it would have been a great honor to have known him. His story reminds me of stories from my mom - full blood native american indian, growing up in a very poor black/mexican neighborhood, picking fruit and vegetables for pennies at the age of 4 and being told that she needed to go back home (she never did understand that, as she being native american indian meant that all of America was home - she later realized that they were telling her to "go back to the reservation"). She is a most amazing woman who never let those bad experiences jade her.

jl333 says,

So glad that this got featured. It speaks volumes.

notjustagirlintheworld says,

Harley, thanks so much your mom sounds like a true inspiration. Like me you are lucky have her, would love to hear more about her :D

Thanks JL means a lot to me.

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