Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

SingerSomewhere says,

What's wrong? Are you okay?

DukeRaider says,

sent you a message Singer

SingerSomewhere says,

This will probably sound stupid, but I don't know how to find or answer messages.

DukeRaider says,

Oh, I'm sorry. Maybe check the email associated with your profile. I'm just so sad, so miserable with myself. I just hurt, really hurt.

SingerSomewhere says,

Don't be sorry. I lost access to my email account. I'm really sorry. But whatever the situation is, it will be okay. Promise.

DukeRaider says,

I lost my wife and closest friend for no other reason than I was too stupid to know to be better than I am. And now I lost her for good and I'd do anything to get her back. I miss her so much. She's my person. And I'd do anything to get her back. Or make this pain go away. I'm so ashamed of how I treated her, I was so foolish and wrong. And I'm sorry. I'm so sorry.

SingerSomewhere says,

I'm really sorry. And I wish I could come up with the right words, but I'm probably one of the most inexperienced people to talk to you about this. I've never even been in love before, much less loved anyone as much as I'm sure you love your wife. But I do know how it feels to be ashamed of what you've done, experiencing that now actually. You're human. You're going to make mistakes and mess up and let people down. That doesn't mean you're a terrible person. I wish I had better things to say, that I could make everything better. But you are in my prayers.

Dragonflower says,

Wow. This memoir really had me worried. DR, you know if you are really upset, it is best to call someone local, or even 911. But, I'm sure you know that, and I am hoping is not as serious as that and you were just hoping for a listening ear. I'm glad SingerSomewhere was able to calm you somewhat. What she said was very wise. I agree with it all.

It feels awful when you've messed up and lost someone you care about. I've been there. The pain does go away eventually and the lesson you learn from the pain will help you in future relationships--even with just yourself. Divorce is hard and difficult, but you'll get through it. Believe in yourself. All will well.

Dragonflower says,

Wow. This memoir really had me worried. DR, you know if you are really upset, it is best to call someone local, or even 911. But, I'm sure you know that, and I am hoping is not as serious as that and you were just hoping for a listening ear. I'm glad SingerSomewhere was able to calm you somewhat. What she said was very wise. I agree with it all.

It feels awful when you've messed up and lost someone you care about. I've been there. The pain does go away eventually and the lesson you learn from the pain will help you in future relationships--even with just yourself. Divorce is hard and difficult, but you'll get through it. Believe in yourself. All will well.

Dragonflower says,

Sorry, didn't mean to send comments twice. Hope you are feeling better.

harley587 says,

DukeRaider - are you okay? Autumn22 is correct and I am worried for you. Please let us know that you are okay and if there is anything I can do....

Dragonflower says,

Yes, I checked earlier to see if you had commented again. It was a little alarming to see your message last night. Your avitar looks different to me this morning, but I could be wrong about that. Is it? Hope you are doing better and dont feel embarrassed about anything. we all have bad nights. we just want to know you are ok.

DukeRaider says,

Hello Autumn and Harley, thank you so much for your concern. I really hit a bottom last night, but I'm still here. Day by day, right? I didn't mean to alarm you or anyone else, I'm just hurting a lot right now.

MsKillie says,

Hi Duke! Please stay strong, I know this is hard to believe but it will get better! Keep writing, find something to smile about everyday, and treat yourself to some of your favorite indulgences. Now is the time to truly find yourself and prove that you can make it through the tough times!

sisterpoet says,

There is another side to the darkness. It is hard to see the light when all around there is black. It is so easy for others to tell you that and you believe it. It is a matter of time, patience, faith...any or all of the above to hold on during a storm and wait for it to pass.
I am a point A to point B person myslef and I just want to take control and fix and solve. This you speak of is unsolvable in a way, hence the need for faith. Just BELIEVE there is another side. Rest in that belief. G-d bless.

lillybrook says,

Duke - I hope today is better. Loss is so hard -- when you feel responsible for that loss, it's even harder. But we are human, we are flawed. It sounds like you are already gaining wisdom, even if you're learning something you hoped to never learn. Please take care of yourself.

catsmeow says,

"Keep breathing and see what the tide brings in." - Anne Morrow Lindbergh
That's what got me through my divorce and boy am I past it. Life is good! But the quote reminds me that every day washes away the last and we start fresh, not knowing what changes lie ahead. I hope they'll be good ones for you. Day at a time.

Dragonflower says,

So glad to hear from you. I was online late that night and it was very distressing to see your words and not know what to do exactly. In the light of day the words do not seem as desperate, but late at night every thing seems so much more desperate.

Divorce and break ups are rough. Everything in your world changes. It is hard whether you are the "break-ee" or the "breaker-upper". Hearts are broken on both sides.

What helped me was just time. My last husband just left a note on the dining room table. As painful as that was, looking back, it was better than endless pain filled talks. However it took months for me to feel better. Like everyone has said, find what ever you can take gives you strength. When its all over, you will then have respect for yourself and your wife. Catsmeow sent me that quote as a comment to one of my memoirs and it is so immensely wise and gives lots of peace to know that sometimes we just have to wait. See what comes our way.

You will be fine again. Be good to yourself and be kind. Everyone makes mistakes. Nor everyone learns from them though. You seem like someone who wants to learn and be better. I applaud that and belive you will succeed.

Take good care. Keep writing and reflecting. You will be just fine.

Dragonflower says,

oops. "find whatever you can THAT gives you strength..."

Sure wish we could edit our comments. Auto correct sometimes makes wierdo sentences...:)

ba_miracle says,

Last year around this time I was in a really low state of mind. My sadness and living with my mistakes have been a lifetime in the making. All I could do at that point in time was to just make it through each day. I spent a lot of time reflecting on how I had ended up in that present circumstance. There were many things I had done wrong, there were many things I had done very well. It was difficult to recognize the good in that darkened state of mind. It was all I could do to remind myself that I would not always feel the way I was feeling.
I did my best to gain the lessons from my mistakes and in some backward way unlearn some things as well.
We all make mistakes.
If you treated someone badly, you may need to take some time (and give her time) to heal. You may also need to take some time to learn how to behave differently (not accusing just reflecting something you said about how you treated your wife).

Being the best person you can be is the only thing you can do sometimes.
"When you know better, you do better" Maya Angelou
and...
you are always good enough for the people who love you and I know that the people I love help me strive to be a better person than I am. (striving a key word).

I hope this hard moment passes soon for you. It can, just get through to the "lighter side", take as much time as you need and reach out to whomever you can. Meetings, support groups, self help books, whatever helps.

Dhani says,

Your memoir lacks a backstory, my friend, -otherwise it's just like someone falsely screaming fire in a crowded theater. Be specific: your hair's falling out? Your soulmate left with your best buddy? You're on an island & you're forced to read only six-word memoirs...?

Loon says,

Is there a doctor in the house?

thesagittarian12 says,

Come on Dhani, this isn't rocket science. The guy has cheated on his partner (who he also considers to be his best friend) which has resulted in the apparent destruction of their relationship. How am I doing, Duke?. Sadly, once trust is broken it can be seriously hard to get back. Hang tough, mate, and best wishes to all concerned.

Dhani says,

SAG -come on, dude -I'm responding to his six-word memoir, an 'emperor' with neither clothes nor backstory. I didn't read his subsequent comment. He'll be OK when he forgives himself, the 'other' & the situation as a whole. All's well that ends well.

Dragonflower says,

Just to make this a little real. I was online late the night this memoir was posted. I couldn't sleep and so thought I'd enjoy a few Smith memoirs and comments. The first I see is this memoir. I was very concerned, wasn't sure if it was for real, didn't want to just ignore, but didn't have a clue what to do. We are anonymous, after all, not best friends or a helpline. I decided Duke was probably Ok, if he could write a plea for help in six, but still... While I'm deciding how to respond SingerSomewhere responds and is very wise and thoughtful in her response.

I waited up a few more hours to see if Duke would respondf. Smith is more of a community than any I've ever come across. I am glad DukeRaider is doing beter and got back in touch.