I am an expert on this. I know it doesn't feel right and it doesn't seem fair and of course you still hate him. I hate him too and I don't even know him!
Having said that, I learned the really, really hard way--all that hating--it takes its toll on you. You are so much more lovely than all that hate. If you possibly can, consider just letting it go.
Thanks but I'm afraid it's not that easy, I don't even remember who he is only what he did. Some day I'll get to the point where I don't hate him, but right now that's not too feasible.
It’s a sad, all too familiar story: harsh, distant, alcoholic father, sensitive, shy daughter always seeking his love and approval. Although there were flashes of kindness, most of my dad’s feelings had been buried long before. Even as...
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Dragonflower says,
I am an expert on this. I know it doesn't feel right and it doesn't seem fair and of course you still hate him. I hate him too and I don't even know him!Having said that, I learned the really, really hard way--all that hating--it takes its toll on you. You are so much more lovely than all that hate. If you possibly can, consider just letting it go.
When you do, I look forward to that memoir.
BecomingLogyn says,
Thanks but I'm afraid it's not that easy, I don't even remember who he is only what he did. Some day I'll get to the point where I don't hate him, but right now that's not too feasible.Dragonflower says,
Well, then I shall send you good wishes and thoughts every day. Writing can be very cathartic so you are on the right track. Take excellent care!BecomingLogyn says,
Thank you