Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

canadafreeze says,

I feel your anger and frustration. If I were there, I'd make you some nice tea, warm ginger cookies, and a little soup for later. When you do find your FBH, I Believe you should wear it indefinitely. There's a lot of love and care in the hat and all that it stands for. I will wear mine in solidarity, and think of you each time I put it on. Hugs, Wench ...

Wench says,

I didn't know I could be sad about the death of someone I didn't know existed. I want to name it. He doesn't think I should. I hate him for that.

canadafreeze says,

I had a miscarriage after my son was born. It was very early in the pregnancy, but I still mourned him. I dreamed of him for months after ... It is a death and each person handles death differently. Don't let it separate you from your husband ... and give your little boy extra love and attention - i know that won't be hard:-) It helps to concentrate on the blessing of what you have, not what you have lost. I hope you can find some peace ...

Believe says,

You could probably use an extra.

Loon says,

canadafreeze said it better than all of us Sixers combined...I shall don my Believe hat and think healing thoughts...

Believe says,

I'll wear mine.

marymc says,

me too.

MO_Thoughts2 says,

Perhaps you can find some peace by getting an angel statue, a necklace with wings, a small mother child necklace -- something that you can associate to your cloud baby. I understand your pain, anger and frustration.

maryjane31 says,

I lost a child early in my pregnancy and it was devastating. I have always wondered if it was the little girl I always wanted. I had to be hospitalized as I lost so much blood. I went into what they call "a stare" where I was so depressed I did not cry, just stared into space. I had to go to counseling to help get "over" it but you never do. The pain goes away but I still, many years later, still think of her/him and wonder if I will meet my child in the next life. When I get depressed I too put on my Believe Hat and it helps make me feel so much better. Thinking of you.

Wench says,

Thank you, everyone. I got carried away last night and let anger take the best of me. It wasn't very pretty. I'm amazed I still hate a husband, let alone one who, at the end of the night, lay on the edge of the bed, wide awake and uncomfortable, because I'd passed out with my head on his chest and he didn't want to wake me up.

Wench says,

Oh Lord, *have* a husband, not *hate*.

Wench says,

I wasn't ready to be pregnant again. I knew that my husband would love to hate another kid and I felt guilty for not feeling ready, even though he never once pressured me.

So I decided I would just try to be ready. If I was pregnant, I would love the baby and everything would be ok. But as soon as we tried, I knew we shouldn't have. I was angry and miserable and blaming him when the poor guy had no idea I felt this way. He felt terrible that we'd gone into this without both being equally excited.

Then two weeks ago, I started bleeding. I figured it was spotting, I had that with my son and it's pretty normal. It went on for a week. Then I started bleeding more. Then three days later, there was a LOT more blood and then two hours later, he or she was gone. And as soon as I knew what was happening, I couldn't stop crying. And I don't fully know why - I didn't know I was pregnant and didn't want to be. But I didn't want to lose it. In some ways, I think I have it easier than some. I never emotionally attached to a child because I didn't know I was having one. But now I feel confused about how to feel.

Wench says,

Dear phone, WHY is 'hate' auto-filled in before 'have'?? While we're on the subject, why don't you have the word 'texted'?? You're a PHONE!

lillybrook says,

You need to feel whatever you feel; the heart wants what it wants. I am sorry you are going through this -- sounds like there is a lot in the air in your life right now. It will get better -- everything has an ebb and flow. So go with this right now. Lean on your people, let yourself grieve. There will be a time to move on.

Take care of yourself.

Amapola says,

Wench, I just got this idea - Forgive me if it's not considered appropriate, but I tried to think what I'd do in your case - even when I know it's absolutely unimaginable for me, I sincerely want to support you and help you in your pain, so here it goes:

Name your child, and make a ritual to say goodbye to him/her - Do something that you envisioned to share together, like flying a kite, or feeding chickens, or reading a bedtime story - whatever - Just take a moment to be at peace and present. Talk to him/her and express your love for him/her- Find healing in the beautiful intention to be the best mum you could ever be. Cry, love him/her, and be grateful for all you received from him/her as you dreamed in expectation.

That short life that chose to share its short existence with you will continue, somehow, somewhere. Give it wings.

{{{HUG}}}

Wench says,

Amapola, thank you for your kind words. We named the baby on Sunday, we chose Gabriel. We told our son, Constantine, that he had a brother or sister and that they're in heaven, where he will get to meet them some day. I also keep a journal for Constantine, and I wrote to him about Gabriel.

Last year, my sister also had a miscarriage. Yesterday, I went to see her and we talked for a while about our experiences. I learned my nephew's name for the first time. Believing that Gabriel is in heaven with his cousin, waiting for us to meet him one day, and writing to my son about it all has brought a lot of comfort.

Larry_D._Smith says,

You gotta Believe. Sending the best thoughts you way -- stay strong, Wench.

ba_miracle says,

Wearing mine in solidarity.

b.dale says,

I will kindly lend you one of mine; I got one for everyday.