Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

jl333 says,

So sorry Believe. Is this referring to your Dad?

marymc says,

Oh man.................. Lord. God. Jesus Christ almighty. GAH.

(((((Believe}}}}}} <----cyber-hug

Believe says,

This would be me finding humor in something that I am not finding very funny.

Believe says,

Yes, jl333, this would be about my dad. You know, the one that had a massive stroke EXACTLY 12 FUCKING YEARS AGO TODAY. As in the one who is on enough blood thinners to have his blood be the approximate consistency of weak kool aid. Yep. That would be the one.

L2L3 says,

Because she's more comfortable talking around what's important instead of dealing with it directly. It often gets that way with age. Sorry to hear about your dad. Go easy on your mom. You've just taken another unintentioned step toward being THE responsible adult in the equation. Not that you're going to be offered a choice...

marymc says,

I would give anything to have coffee (or something stronger) with you and just shoot the shit. You just replaced Dorothy Parker on my list of who I'd want to meet.

Believe says,

I'll take that as a compliment, Mary. I make a mean cup of coffee.

jl333 says,

Apparently I posted my first comment before the backstory was published. This is really heart breaking. Cyber hug to you Believe.

TheAngstyPoet says,

Believe, my love and thoughts are with you. Cyber bear hug. (>^__^)>

NumbrOneAunt says,

believe, so sorry. i hope the kindness you have shown others will come back to you as your family faces this.

BananaPancakes1 says,

my ma had cancer. of course we're not the same so i can't say i fully understand :/ but i do at least a little. and i can say that i'll pray for you. <3 and i think L2L3's right. you gotta go easy on her, as negligent and thoughtless as this might have seemed. it's not like this is exactly a walk in the park for her. i wouldn't know what to say either. <3 anyway, like i said i'm praying for you, and i'm sorry you have to deal with this!

oopsalittle says,

So sorry - really hate cancer. Hard to talk about it sometimes....

KharisJo says,

Sorry for your news and the awful way you had to find out B. All the best to you and your Dad and Mom and family.

Believe says,

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts. We are waiting around for surgery and then to find out just what type it is. It is a skin cancer, so we are hoping for the best.

My mom and I are very close. I help a lot with my dad's care anyway, so I think she was trying to shelter me from "one more thing". I wasn't the least bit angry with her. She is the fulltime caregiver of my post stroke aphasic father. Her chatter about insignificant stuff is probably the best way for her to take the focus off of how very many struggles life has handed her.

notjustagirlintheworld says,

so sorry

ba_miracle says,

Saying a well wishing prayer for you and your family Believe. You put so much good out, I hope it comes back to you now.

*hugs you

DynamicDbytheC says,

We all deal with this $#@* differently. Your mom sounds typical of women of the generation where they whispered the word, "divorce." I sure hope your dad gets through this health crisis, too. Sounds like he has had a few so he must be a fighter. Cyber hugs to you and your family.

lillybrook says,

Believe - you are amazing. I want in on the coffee club. But I also want to say I empathize; Moms sometimes want to spare us pain, I think, even when we are grown. When my parents divorced after 40 years of marriage, I didn't find out it was a done deal until several WEEKS after the papers were finalized. Like you, I heard about the dogs in the neighborhood who sh** on her lawn, the boys visiting the neighbors that were rude, the stupid comment her sister made on the phone... but nothing about the process of undoing 40 years. To this day -- and it's been 2 years -- she hasn't really talked about it.

It sounds like your dad is a fighter; I hope that he beats this, and that you get to have the discussions around his treatment and care, and about your shared lives that you want to have. I will be here, thinking of you and supporting you.

Wench says,

I'm kind of in shock from how much the word "cancer" has been showing up here. It needs to go away. Forever. I'm so sorry.

Mourningdove says,

I ache for you as we are having similair stuff in our neck of the woods.

My mother in law sent my husband an email the same day you published this, stating his dad has abdominal cancer.And then blathered on for 2 paragraphs about her own insignificant sniffles and what not.

I am sorry that you father is ill, hope he makes a full recovery soon.

Tracey

Dhani says,

(Let's pray it's a non-malignant form of skin cancer & merely has to be incised. I experienced it in 2008 & it's a piece of cake. For those who are afflicted with cancer & see no light at the end of the tunnel, may I suggest something RADICAL? Instead of BATTLING with cancer, like all the afflicted celebritries who are hailed for doing so, EMBRACE your cancer, try to talk & reason & live with it! You might see somestartling results lookingat your sickness in a different way. By all means, do not be frightened by the word 'CANCER'!)

Dhani says,

(I also overcame an aggressive form of lymphoma, a cancer that attacks, of all things, one's IMMUNE system which was threatening my ability to ever walk again & this non-confrontational approach to it worked, I'm cancer-free!)

scribbling_scribe says,

Sending well wishes for your dad and hugs for you and your mom!

LucidDreamer says,

Am speechless...all I can think to say is sorry you had to find out that way, and hoping for a recovery for your dad.