Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

lovelylizard says,

Sorry to hear that lumi. Keep trying.

ShellDeFelice says,

Keep your head down and do everything from "a seat of love". There are some badass bullets in that gun and their reach is farther than you can run, trust me on this one.

Staraj says,

Six word comment in queue for Tuesday.

ShellDeFelice says,

I'm sure Staraj is right on this one.

KharisJo says,

is the "d" word being aimed at you? if you haven't already, maybe it's time to seek counselling to balance out the equation a bit more. Hope things work out for you.

canadafreeze says,

No words except sorry.

Loon says,

dump the sonofabitch

ShellDeFelice says,

It's cold and lonely out here...just sayin.

illuminatrix says,

First, lemme say you guys are awesome. Seriously.

Staraj, I feel dumb, but what do you mean? I shouldn't post so hastily? Just guessing. Whatever you mean though, I automatically trust there is wisdom in it.

Shell, of course, excellent advice, and your extension of my gun metaphor is cooler than Quentin Tarantino (that's saying something). Never doubt the poetess inside you.

Loon, you mean the daughterofabitch? ;^)

Ceasefire achieved for now, I'll share some more details later. Mine is a somewhat uniquely complicated situation (not denigrating or down-valuing anyone else's very real complexity, but mine is of an international, intercultural variety.

Kharis and Canada and Lizard, thanks to you too. It's a butting of heads and more just a confrontation of 'can we understand and accept each other's different standpoints', culminating in a 'can we stay together kind of thing' rather than an 'actually threatening divorce' kind of thing. We've been married for only about a year and 4 months (resident hardcore married for ages types, feel free to tease, I feel pretty lame about it too).

I just really hate double standards and when the hypocritical accuse me of hypocrisy. And the ultimatums get under my skin and fester.

So far, achieving genuine civility, no one's cleaning their muskets right now. I'm just trying to gauge how I really feel, not rushing into anything hasty, and slinging no malice whatsoever. Typing on the phone driving me crazy now, so I'll get on the faithful keyboard later. Thanks again, everyone. Who'd have thunk it? A community united by brevity with such voluminous wisdom.

ShellDeFelice says,

I thought Staraj meant this was so good we'd see it in the line up tommorow. Thank you for the amazing compliment, to me it is the highest praise when a fellow writer that you admire "gets" your stuff. I am happy to hear neither of you are feeling trigger happy. Sending you both warm "togetherness" thoughts!

Staraj says,

As is my wont, I make a lot of social comments. (Some unwelcome, I'm sure.) As it happens, I wrote a six about marriage/divorce a few weeks ago, and filed it. Might as well post it, and see if my comments elicit comments.

illuminatrix says,

We had a proper heart to heart. Feeling a lot more solid now.

ShellDeFelice says,

It is my firm belief that marriage is a tinderbox. I have tremendous admiration for those who successfully manage any small fires and the greatest respect for those who can stay together after engulfing flames. Please be proud of the work you both just did, it can be a successful foundation for each of you to step up on. So happy to read you connected!!!!!!

Dragonflower says,

Shell, thought i meant a heart to heart with Smithfolk made him feel more solid. Glad I misunderstood, illuminatrix. When I think back on my divorce, I sometimes feel I acted too hasty. But I didn't really. That's just hindsight and second guessing. But maybe what I did do was react too much about stuff. I wasn't zen then, and I wasn't non judgemental either. Nice that you are trying to work things out. It is not always easy to live with someone when things are not the best. I need lots of space to process my feelings in those kind of times. But if you are at least talking, that is good sign. It's the silence that leaves you nowhere (or, conversely, talking something to death). The middle area is best. Good luck. Shell is so right when she says it is cold and lonely out here in Singleland. It seems like singles get to do whatever they want, all the time (as David Spade said on Rules of Engagement) but.....just but. I'll leave it at that. This is a more rambling comment than is usual for me. That's because relationship talk causes me to ramble...it is that complicated. Good luck squared!