Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

marymc says,

I need to know how one stops.

KharisJo says,

there's no prescribed formula, but remember grieving is a process to help yourself adjust to a significant loss. Whatever form that takes for you is right for you. Also when you feel grief can differ for many people - for some it's immediate, others may deal with the grief a long time after. Some people cry, others are unable to and that's Okay. Some people do symbolic things, like I write letters and plant them under trees. My sister compiles beautiful memory photo albums. Often its just talking about the loss with someone, even a counsellor. Best wishes Duke.

notjustagirlintheworld says,

someone very smart once told me it's a vessel, it can come out one tear at a time for years or all at once. Every one grieves differently. Start by accepting the loss and then follow your true feelings.

Wench says,

I know what you mean. I feel like in many ways, I haven't let myself grieve, I've just kept moving. Then it comes out in places and ways I don't expect and suddenly I'm in pieces and don't know how to stop it. I wish I knew a way to address what happened and honor the feelings I'm so afraid to have, but instead I mostly act like I'm ok and even believe that I am. So it always catches me off guard.

DynamicDbytheC says,

Fear is often behind the feeling of anger. Anger is fear with energy. Anger is more external. Fear and depression are internal. My go-to emotion is anger. I break down months later. An interesting book about grieving is written by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. Can't recall the name, but it is a classic and easy to find. I believe this memoir is to your official start. Best to you. Please keep writing.

Dragonflower says,

My counselor has suggested I never grieved the loss of my parents at young ages. (they were young and so was I). Therefore I am overly sensitive to events around me. This has always been a problem and hard for people around me to understand. I am dealing with a new loss in my life right now and trying to grieve better than I have in the past. For me, that means honoring my feelings each day as they come and doing what seems most natural and right in expressing the grief. Different for me than before when I simply acted as if the sorrow did not exist.

Hope it helps you Duke, to see our responses. Grief can be a puzzling thing, I think, because it is not something one generally talks about. There's usually no preparation. But as others have said, there is no "right" or "wrong" to it. Well, I take that back. The only wrong would be to just stuff the feelings. I have learned that the hard way.

Best wishes to you and my sincere condolences on your loss, whatever that might be.