Better at grief support months later.
Backstory
There's a memorial service tomorrow I should probably attend, but I just... don't do funerals. I'm not sure why, except that once I arrive, I always feel like I don't belong there... that someone who needs to be there should have the seat in the pew, the parking spot on the street, the "I'm sorry for your loss" moment after the service.For some reason, I think I'm better at cookies a month later, coffee or dinner and time to talk. It just feels that once the hectic has died down, the silence intrudes, and then I know where I should be.
by lillybrook in Six-Word Memoirs on Jan 13, 2013 | 
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Dragonflower says,
Last month I wrote out all the names of the children and the adults on a piece of paper and put stickers of snowmen(people) on it. Every night since, I've lit a candle by this list. I have little flowers too. I used to cry and cry. Now I just feel sad. Really sad. I was just thinking about the parents today.Dragonflower says,
I was thinking about Sandy Hook. You may have other grief moments in your life, lillybrook. Time is a healer.Dragonflower says,
I wrote my comments before your backstory. But my comments seem pertinent anyway. I had a friend who lost his mother three years ago this Feb. He is still grieving, but I am probably the only friend who remembers his mom's date of passing. You are the kind of person people need, lillybrook. The one who comes after; the one who remembers.lillybrook says,
Thanks, Autumn22 - I appreciate that. And I agree: your comments about Sandy Hook are pertinent -- no one should forget, and months (years) later I don't know how we won't feel that loss.lillybrook says,
So this morning I woke up and decided I should go to the memorial service. I'm glad I did, even though I feel completely wrung out now. I can't imagine what the family feels like -- she was only 20.