Planning for Valentine's celebration for one.
Backstory
Today I put away the holiday decorations and dusted (!) my apt. It is all clean and tidy and I put out Valentine decorations and red throws, table runners, hearts. Pretty.Then I thought about how every year, I wait. For this guy, the same guy who never shows. This year I gave him up, and my heart's in rehab right now learning not to yearn for his charming, but hurtful self. (emotional hurt, not physical). So, without my heart here, what will I do?
Then I thought, I could go somewhere, treat myself nice, have fun doing stuff I like. I looked up when Vday is and its on a Thursday. Perfect! I could go somewhere Wednesday and Thursday;maybe even Friday....I will work on this tomorrow...too soon for Santa Fe, but I will find a good spot.
by Dragonflower in Six-Word Memoirs on Love & Heartbreak on Jan 15, 2013 | 
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Comments
catsmeow says,
Good idea in concept, but many places will be awash with couples out celebrating, so choose wisely. Wish I had a brilliant suggestion, but I'm brain-dead at the moment.Dragonflower says,
Yes, I thought of that too. It's the flaw in my plan, but I think I may have an alternate idea.... It is percolating, as my dad used to say. Thanks for thinking of me, catsmeow!accidentaltourist says,
I think it's a fantatic idea. The lovey dovey couples will be a drag, it's true....but there must be places for the non-observant.Dragonflower says,
I want to be ok with being single on this day. I want to feel strong. I spent too many years waiting, hoping. At work, these women used to practically have contests over getting the biggest displays of affection. One year, this one woman actually sent her flowers back and called her bf to say send different ones. Honest.I'm thinking of doing stuff to honor me. Maybe a massage, or a facial, or special dinner. I may avoid the actual day, and go somewhere the few days before. My thinking is if I do stuff consciously, I can be my own valentine. I already bought a card. It is a shift in seeing myself as loveable, not rejected. I have real pearls from 25 years ago.....so I'm partially there, right accidentaltourist ?!?
accidentaltourist says,
Yes! Pearls make everything better. You have good plans...carry on. :) You are loveable.lillybrook says,
There are non-romantic ways to celebrate love. Autumn 22, your ideas look right on track. Awesome!mzejay says,
As a single person, I always did something special on Valentine's Day. I put on my red dress and went out to lunch. One year I went to the Super Love Jam concert alone. I figured I might as well get a good seat and I sat near the front and enjoyed it. Another year, I bought myself a ring. I still wear it and remember that it is from the person who loves me best of all. Find a way to honor yourself and have a wonderful day.Dragonflower says,
Yay, mzejay! Thanks! My plans are in motion.