Can’t “will” sobriety onto loved ones.
Backstory
As a former addict I understand this and 90% of the time I accept it but I’m in the 10% right now and it’s frustrating as all hell.I wrote an extensive backstory to this (and hopefully the purge will help me be more supportive when one of my 2 wayward angels calls).
Yes I know how futile it would be and no I'll not go to an Al-anon meeting.
I'll move slowly back into acceptance or distance depending on the route each loved one chooses to take.
I wish I had the perfect words but I don't...sh!t is the one that comes most easily to mind.
by ba_miracle in Six-Word Memoirs on Love & Heartbreak on Nov 27, 2012 | 
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DynamicDbytheC says,
Painful and helpless feeling. Watching others deteriorate is torture. I am experiencing this for a different reason but emotions are identical.ba_miracle says,
I just want to hug and squeeze you DynamicD.DynamicDbytheC says,
I wish all the love and kindness we experience everyday could stop his tumor/cancer.ba_miracle says,
I so wish that too.ba_miracle says,
And your words will help me react to them more "softly".I could test my own sobriety by giving up my sleeping pill and birth control but that would be a stress on my sanity (and kindness;-).
When I know loved ones are using, I don't ask because it keeps them out of the position of lying but there are 2 who want my understanding right now and I'm struggling to give it and a little frustrated with my own hard judgments about it.
Thank you DynamicD for the reminder.