"My daughter" somehow doesn't feel right.
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It's something I continue to wrestle with. From what I've been told, we are more the same pea than peas in the same pod. We certainly LOOK alike. So why is it that I have so much trouble referring to her as "my daughter"? Is it because, despite the fact that our genetic connection is a given, we have zero personal history. I may be her REAL Dad, but the only guy she has probably ever called "Dad" is dead. I'm hoping that, one day, referring to her as "my daughter" won't feel strange or inappropriate, but as natural as breathing. by Sagacious in Six-Word Memoirs on Love & Heartbreak on Oct 26, 2012 | 
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accidentaltourist says,
I wish you all the best luck with your struggle.canadafreeze says,
You are lucky to have found each other - I'd have given anything to have known my 'real' father. I wish you luck and love, Sag.Wench says,
I hope that for you, too.MO_Thoughts2 says,
Someday soon is my hope for you.Sagacious says,
I've use the words "my daughter" countless times on this website, but every time I've used them it's felt kinda weird. It's like I feel like I need to ask her permission to use them. If she doesn't FEEL like my daughter then, in a sense, she isn't. Interesting stuff.MO_Thoughts2 says,
I get that .... I've noticed when I talk about my dad, it's usually in all in lowercase, not "Dad" like most people write. I didn't know him since he died when I was a baby. There's a connection, but not quite fully plugged in.unknown116 says,
It takes more than DNA to feel like family. You two need to start growing together. Creating something that only you two can. I wish I had a closer relationship with my dad, but we are just too different. If you and your little girl are the same "pea" then use that as step one. Good luck. I have faith in you, Sagacious.Sagacious says,
@unknown116. It appears you're a little out of the loop. I've never even met my daughter, though we have exchanged a couple of messages and I now have some photos of her. There needs to be the will from her side, and I see no evidence of that. Until she decides I'm worthy of her time, nothing's going to happen. In the meantime, life goes on.