Defiance might help. Can't muster any.
Backstory
this memoir was inspired by the lyrics of a song called "happy in my heartache", from josh groban's forthcoming album: "i can't find a reason/to be happy in this heartache/i should know better than that/i'm better than that." it's been ten years since the man i loved dumped me, and i've never been able to take the "it's HIS loss!" attitude. wonder if it would help if i could. sometimes think i'll always see myself as the one he left behind. not happy in my heartache, but it's still here... by NumbrOneAunt in Six-Word Memoirs on Love & Heartbreak on Feb 02, 2013 | 
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canadafreeze says,
Muster all that defiance and step over the heartache - believe It IS his loss, and move forward. Many hugs to you, NOA.NumbrOneAunt says,
thank you, CF. i'll say it again - you are a bright, steady dependable light here on SMITH.Dragonflower says,
It IS his loss. Absolutely. But the one who gets left usually has doubts about that. The person leaving has more time to think about it, while the person getting left, just gets... left.I think it is possible to still love someone, even though you know it isn't ever going to work again. So it often feels wrong to feel the kind of defiance it takes to cut loose and move on. Maybe something symbolic would help you to achieve this closure and feeling of moving on. It does take a while for it to take effect though, these symbolic gestures. But it is a step. Then you can do another one, and then another one, until, voila, you will be moved on.