Adopted, did you feel less loved?
BackstoryI have wanted to adopt for as long as I can remember. After a particularly harrowing birth experience with our son, the idea appeals to me even more. I have heard the argument that no matter what, the love for an adopted child just isn't the same as the love of a biological child. In a good home, I disagree. Several of my family members were adopted. To me, they have always been my cousins. Not my adopted cousins. I don't know whether they have ever felt less loved, though.
Then, if they have, I guess my next question is, is it better to be loved deeply but always know that something is different, even if you aren't treated that way, or to never be adopted?
I feel like if we adopted a baby, I would adore him or her. If I knew that I hadn't carried them to term or given birth, I don't see how that could diminish my love for them. Thoughts?