Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

Wench says,

Up until recently, I *only* loved people I shouldn't.

jene2008 says,

I most certainly have. it turned out to be the best thing to happen to me.

dakat123 says,

Wench, I've had a problem with that in the past myself. The only men that showed an interest were 15 years or more older than me or married. In the beginning, my self-esteem was so low I thought I didn't deserve to be happy, so I'll take what I can get. As I got older and was single longer, the rationale changed. I became more independent, and I didnt want the "hassle" of a committed relationship. Now, I'm at a different point, but honestly I haven't defined it yet. Meaningful relationship ... Yes, I know that. What that looks like and who it includes, I'm not sure.

dakat123 says,

Jene2008, I just love being around you guys! The chemistry is undeniable. Knowing that that still exists for some gives me hope for the future. Hugs!!!

jene2008 says,

Kat, I've always believed there is the perfect person out there for each one of us. God knows I wasn't expecting to find Dean when I did. Sometimes it just happens when we least expect it. I know all of that is cliche, but there is truth to it. Love to ya.

MO_Thoughts2 says,

Sure have. A couple three times. They were growing experiences and lessons (both good and bad) were learned. Made me stronger and more confident in what I want, deserve, expect, and need.

Wench says,

I was the same. I was home schooled and started taking college classes at 14. My friends were always much older than me. I got tangled up in a big mess of misplaced Daddy-issues or something. (I love my Dad, always have, always will) But about the time the 37-year-old accountant for a wine company was attempting to hang himself because I came to New York and stayed with the 45-year-old photographer and didn't visit... When he was telling me he wanted to get me pregnant so I'd have to marry him, that's right about when my life started to feel completely out of control and scary. I ended up couch-surfing with a guy from one of my classes and eventually dating him, becoming an alcoholic, catching him cheating at least four times and trying to kill myself twice. So my husband falling in love with me was a miracle, really, because it took seeing who I could be, and loving who I was enough to get me there. He is the only one I should have loved. He's the only one who has loved me.

jene2008 says,

Thank you for sharing your story, Wench. It must have been a horrible experience going through it all, but what a wonderful chapter you've begun now. Life has a way of dealing some blows, for sure.

Level1 says,

I've lusted after someone I shouldn't have.

Wench says,

It is a whole new beginning. I cut off every limb holding me to that life. I was a teenager - and although I'm responsible for my decisions, I still think there are some very unhealthy people out there who prey on the youth and naivete of children who believe they're adults.

dakat123 says,

I agree. They always seem to know who the most vulnerable people are and know exactly how to behave to ensnare them.

accidentaltourist says,

I have. I do. I probably always will.

Level1 says,

On another note, your memoir reminds me of a Fine Young Cannibals song from the 80s: Ever Fallen in Love (With Someone You Shouldn't Have Fallen In Love With)

dakat123 says,

Wench, thanks so much for sharing! I can only imagine how you must have felt. I made some bad decisions because I was lost and I didn't have a clue about what I wanted, but then I didn't take myself seriously at all. I didn't think I would live to see 30 -- seriously. I thought the older men would be security and it was thrilling that " someone like him would be interested in someone like me. "

ba_miracle says,

Yes, recently even and I’ll probably do it again and know better.
I’ve also been “the someone you shouldn’t love”...
but probably not ever again.

mzejay says,

I did, spent way too long waiting/hoping/praying. Letting go was difficult, but enough was finally enough and I moved on.

Jujeebal says,

Oh my goodness - yes, yes and yes again.

Undermom says,

Been there. Been that.

Steve__Anthony says,

Loved a lot that were out of my league.

lillybrook says,

@Steve_Anthony - I don't think that is ever true. Some people are just playing a different game. Every relationship is informative, right? Even the ones we wish we hadn't...

TawnyPort says,

Ohhh yeahhh, one particular guy turned me into a psychotic mess. I have become very mistrustful of romantic relationships ever since then.