Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

H2point0 says,

I don't. Only know wrong answers.

H2point0 says,

I don't. Only know wrong answers.

maryjane31 says,

Well sometimes it is difficult but I always know when it feels right.

unknown116 says,

I'm incredibly lost right now.

MO_Thoughts2 says,

Usually what feels right. When I've ignored that intuition, it bites me in the ass.

Care to expand on why you feel lost? Sometimes an outside opinion can make you see things differently.

Wench says,

You don't always know and it's not always right. I have been wrong a lot. A lot.

unknown116 says,

I have a friend that is in a dark spot in his life and he has decided he is going to lean on me. I love helping people, but I'm not sure if I should let him handle this on his own. Some brides in life you can cross with others, but some you can't. I am also torn between if I am going to help him or hurt him. Or if helping him will hurt or help me.

Wench says,

In high school, I had a close friend in whom I confided a lot of my depression and self-harming issues. He got freaked out and said he thought he needed to tell an adult. I was upset, but understood. So he told his parents. His mom pulled me aside one day and said I shouldn't cut, because it leaves unlady-like scars that would detract a future husband. His dad told him he couldn't speak to me anymore, because if I killed myself, he didn't want his son to feel guilty. It wasn't until two years later that I found that out. All I knew was that one day, quite suddenly, my best friend stopped speaking to me.


All that to say, he didn't feel like he could handle what I was telling him on his own, and that was fair. If you feel like this is more than you can help with on your own, you aren't a bad friend. But if you think he needs some help you can't give or if being involved is hurting you, you need to tell him. He may be upset at the time, but if he really cares about you, he'll understand it when he is in a better mindset.

I have also had a friend indirectly try to die from cold. When I helped him out and got him some blankets and secured somewhere for him to sleep, he was angry at me for not realizing his suicidal state and somehow fixing it. Something you have to know about people handling depression is that they're not always thinking rationally. And if you CAN be a friend, you should be. But if it's hurting you, stop. I had to cut a friendship off completely when the person began using suicide attempts as a way to try to manipulate me (different friend, this one tried to hang himself because I came to New York and stayed at someone else's house). I hoped the best for him but realized that I couldn't be held responsible for his actions. It's a hard separation to make, but necessary.

marymc says,

My head and my heart duke it out til my gut steps in and tells them both shut the fuck up.

unknown116 says,

I don't have the heart to let him go but I don't think that I am mentally stable enough to have him stay. I am at a loss. I think I know the right choice, which is to let him go, but I don't know if I'm strong enough to make that choice. Please help.

Wench says,

Sometimes you just have to do the right thing and find the strength later. Wishing the best for you.

Wench says,

Sometimes you just have to do the right thing and find the strength later. Wishing the best for you.

canadafreeze says,

I often second guess myself, but my gut instinct is usually right. Being open and honest with your friend is the best thing - and probably the hardest. Best of luck to you and your friend.

unknown116 says,

All I know is I'm going to miss him...because I miss him so much already. And he won't listen to how much he really means to me.

maryjane31 says,

Let him go. I feel this strongly. Too much for you to handle.

unknown116 says,

I feel as though I am the wrong person for what he needs. I just hope one day he can see that.

ba_miracle says,

Sometimes all you can do for someone you love is to help them to get help.
And sometimes you have to take a hard stance when they refuse. It may turn out that you don't speak for awhile or ever again. In the end abusive relationships breed more resentment than love.

I have many long lists in all the ways I've learned this the hard way.
Going with your gut is the most simple/difficult but sanest way to go.

unknown116 says,

What's actually amazing though is that while trying to get him help, I learned that I need to get help. Now I just need to learn where to get it. All of you guys have helped give me peace with his situation, now I'm on to my next journey in life.