Six Word Memoirs on Life Stories

maryjane31 says,

It seems to be when you are young that beauty is more valued. The secret is to be beautiful and smart. By beautiful I don't mean "movie star" beautiful but just a nice attractiveness and let them all know you've read a good book or two. Intelligence is very sexy. When you get to be my age looks are not that important in a relationship. My husband of over 35 years has seen me at my VERY worst and still loves me. Ditto him as well.

jl333 says,

Personally I would rather be more smart than good looking.

Wench says,

There's nothing wrong with feeling attractive or doing things that make you feel that way, but in the long run, brains beat beauty, always.

accidentaltourist says,

We all know the right answer here...but ask someone who is considered...I'm just going to say it....downright ugly...what THEY think.

canadafreeze says,

Discussed this at some length the other night. Hands down, brains. Beauty can be assumed. Brains cannot. Beauty can open doors, but brains will make the door.

Wench says,

I wouldn't want to be ugly. But I feel like ugliness can be forgotten when you have a beautiful personality. Sounds cheesy, but it's true. People who smile and laugh big and are kind are happier than people who are obsessed with vanity.

accidentaltourist says,

I find intelligence powerfully attractive in both men and women. And I find obsession with looks and labels more annoying than anything else. I like looking at beautiful people...but they are frequently the ones I wish wouldn't open their mouths and spoil the moment. And I am willing to admit that there have been times when a person I initially did not find particularly attractive looked a lot better to me once I had spent some time with him or her (applies to both genders as well).

accidentaltourist says,

Ask anyone if they would rather be a little dumber or a bit homelier....you might be surprised at the answers you get.

Hannahmo says,

At my school, most of the guys only pay attention to the pretty (but airheaded) girls. Hoping this changes sooner than later.

Hannahmo says,

Not just the good looking ones. The majority of them. I love different/ unique guys but most of them have girlfriends because as you said they know how to treat a girl right. :)

skyrocketjones says,

A whole package would be The Bomb! Seems to me that would be: looks, personality, brains, character depth-integrity, and knowing who you are to the core and comfortable with yourself. And wouldn't that be wholly attainable by anyone?
By looks I mean making the most of what is naturally, uniquely there, classic beauty or not. We've all heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That levels the playing field somewhat. Charisma, personality or enthusiasm in some cases can be sooo infectious and magnetic! (Exterior beauty can in time fade and then what's left?)
Guys are thankfully different in many ways, but not without understanding or thoughts about all this, even as young men. But they are visual. Visual things register before they can even process it (I've heard) and of course they're attracted to beauty. It doesn't hurt! Just like for women, a guy with money (or at least a good income) doesn't hurt! But there needs to be more in both cases if you're talking interaction beyond a certain depth.

Dhani says,

I've always found intelligence very 'sexy' -to connect with someone both physically hot & smart is the cherry on top of Love's sundae. (By the by, 'physically hot' falls into a lot of varied categories. I find people who are not classically beautiful are often MORE 'beautiful', like big ears or a prominent Roman nose...)

notyouraveragegirl says,

Too many people are focused on the superficial. Youth and physical beauty is fleeting. What lasts is the true self. If your true self is intelligent and confident, it will make you more beautiful. And smiling is the easiest way to make yourself more attractive. Hang in there! I know it is not easy; I was there once myself. You would not want one of the dumb guys who chase the fake girls anyways. You want someone more like yourself.