It seems like a Jerry Springer episode, but itâ€™s actually my life
He was so charming. We were all fooled. Everyone in my family thought he was great.
I got pregnant. â€œLetâ€™s name her Annabelle,â€ he insisted.
â€œThat makes me think of a cow,â€ I replied.
He broke the news to my mom first, â€œWeâ€™re having a baby he said.â€
â€œWhat are your plans?â€ my mom politely asked.
â€œI will support your daughter no matter what her decision,â€ he answered.
We got into a fight. I ended the relationship before I was even three months pregnant. Everyone thought I was nuts, â€œWhyâ€™d you break up with him?â€ they asked.
â€œI have my reasons.â€
It turns out my instinct was right. He was still married, and the child he claimed was his nephew- was in fact his son. (Two facts he conveniently omitted / altered.)
The pregnancy flew by and not a word from him.
I visited his mother when my daughter was a year old. â€œHeâ€™s very family oriented,â€ she insisted. â€œI really wanted you guys to stay together.â€
â€œWhere is he?â€ I asked.
â€œHeâ€™s interviewing for a job in New York.â€
â€œDoesnâ€™t he want to see his daughter?â€
No response. Instead, she said, â€œTell me if you need anything.â€
Summer turned into fall. I thought it would be nice to visit his mother again, so she could see the baby. I got to the house, and EVERYONE was there â€“ his grandparents, stepfather, and the neighbor (I have no idea what she was doing there.)
Conversation was started. His mother decided it was time for a little truth telling, â€œHeâ€™s married. Thatâ€™s not his nephew; thatâ€™s his son.â€
WHAT THE HELL DID I GET MYSELF INTO?
Four months later and I tracked his wife down to Florida. I called her to tell her who I was. â€œHE GOT ANOTHER GIRL PREGNANT? I canâ€™t believe he had me give up my son,â€ she sobbed. â€œDid you know that thereâ€™s another girl down here who will give birth next month?â€ she asked.
So now, my daughter is almost a year old and has never seen or received a dime from her lying, useless father. He is denying we ever had a relationship. His mother, crazy as she is, insists that the pregnancies arenâ€™t his fault. I guess it was the immaculate conception twice over.
A year and half later, his wife is STILL with him (only God knows why), my daughter now has a month old little half-sister from another woman, and Iâ€™ve yet to see the child support he said heâ€™d provide. It seems like a Jerry Springer episode, but itâ€™s actually my life.
The sum total: I have a beautiful little girl, and no one can take that away from me.