Like most Italian Americans, I'm often asked if I'm Jewish. It's more than the curly hair and the olive skin; Jews and Italians are often mistaken for one another because they have similar manners and values. Family and tradition are extremely important to both, and both have the reputation of slight, endearing mental/emotional instability. As an Italian with a disproportionate number of close Jewish friends, I've noticed the main difference is the direction of our neuroses. Jews internalize everything. They role every exchange over in their brains a thousand times. They talk everything out. They talk everything to death. Italians do the same thing, of course, but with a lot more drinking, shouting, and breaking of furniture. Italians take their crazy out on others. Jews take it out on themselves.
This is beautiful because it rings so true! I'm an olive-skinned Italian-American also and I noticed the affinity I felt and my family felt for the Jewish community. (You might expand on this & post it on THE MOMENT -although, as it's written (the backstory) it's perfect as it is!)
Congrats - really love this -
I completely get this too. And now I understand why I could so relate to the sixes here but thought I couldnt contribute to this section, not really having many Jewish experiences. It's my Italian blood! My partner and I are testament to the yelling and slamming of doors and the occasional throwing of the remote control. We are just as passionate in love too!
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JadeSylvan says,
Like most Italian Americans, I'm often asked if I'm Jewish. It's more than the curly hair and the olive skin; Jews and Italians are often mistaken for one another because they have similar manners and values. Family and tradition are extremely important to both, and both have the reputation of slight, endearing mental/emotional instability. As an Italian with a disproportionate number of close Jewish friends, I've noticed the main difference is the direction of our neuroses. Jews internalize everything. They role every exchange over in their brains a thousand times. They talk everything out. They talk everything to death. Italians do the same thing, of course, but with a lot more drinking, shouting, and breaking of furniture. Italians take their crazy out on others. Jews take it out on themselves.Dhani says,
This is beautiful because it rings so true! I'm an olive-skinned Italian-American also and I noticed the affinity I felt and my family felt for the Jewish community. (You might expand on this & post it on THE MOMENT -although, as it's written (the backstory) it's perfect as it is!)oopsalittle says,
Congrats - really love this -I completely get this too. And now I understand why I could so relate to the sixes here but thought I couldnt contribute to this section, not really having many Jewish experiences. It's my Italian blood! My partner and I are testament to the yelling and slamming of doors and the occasional throwing of the remote control. We are just as passionate in love too!